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The New Years’ Transformation

January 4, 2019


By Jay Reed, MSW, LCSW


A new year, A new you? A new year brings with it a list of resolutions and expectations that this year will be the best yet. We start out with the best of intentions; to lose weight, to use our devices less, to spend more time reading or more quality time with our families. What do you hope 2019 will bring you? Personally it’s hard for me to believe it’s 2019...just think 1990 was 29 years ago 😱. For those of us born before the 90s let the reality of us moving closer to middle age and encountering more “adults” who have no idea who Chris Farley is or that at one time you had to wait for your internet to “dial up”. 🤦🏻‍♀️

2019 reminds me of the cartoon, The Jetsons. Wasn’t there suppose to be flying cars and robots 🤖that cleaned up behind you in 2019? Instead we have something very different, but we continue to seek changes from within. We hope these changes will bring about positive influences that will improve our lives. We continue to strive for the best life has to offer, but are we really ready to do the work? 💪🏻

I tell every client I meet that change is possible, but it is never easy. I give them hope, while encouraging them to set realistic expectations. Am I going to lose 60 pounds in 3 months after having two babies in two years? No...I am not. Firstly I don’t have the time or energy to meet that goal, and all I will be left with is disappointment. What if instead I focused on feeling better and being healthy? What if I focused on how I feel instead of how I look? Now that I can manage, I can find the time to focus on myself everyday. Yes, I said EVERYDAY. 👍🏻

Hear me out fellow Mommas...you do have 10 minutes in your day. 10 minutes to read, to listen to an audible book (totally amazing by the way) or listen to your favorite album (thanks Adele!). Can you spend 10 or 20 minutes outside? Can you walk around your neighborhood before or after dinner? A coworker of mine walks during her lunch break, 15 minutes to eat and rest is dedicated to exercise and outside time. 🏃🏻‍♂️We are quick to complain we don’t have time, but how much time throughout the day do we waste? How much time do you spend on Social Media? How much time have you spent reading through the comment sections of a sensational post? Do you sit in front of the TV mindless each night, never really sure what you just watched? 📺Take that time in this new year and find a new interest! Find a new way to care for yourself. Allow yourself the time and grace to discover who you are or want to be in 2019.

I know that while I may have many old school resolutions to make and break this month I am choosing to focus on what I can do that will withstand the year and the growing pains of being an adult. In the spirit of a new year, try something new. Forego resolutions this year and instead focus on the grace of allowing yourself to grow and change In ways that are healthy and manageable. Happy New Year to our friends, families, clients and supporters. 🎉May the year of 2019 bring you enough joy to smile and a sprinkle of discomfort to allow your growth. 2️⃣0️⃣1️⃣9️⃣❗️ 

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